I burned my arm on a hot light bulb yesterday.
Leave it to me to maneuver about my attic in 90 degree heat (God knows what the attic temp might have been) but upon my descent via the ladder stairs, I managed to skim my skin past the old Edison and hit the garage floor balancing a box of dated income tax returns in one hand while blowing cool the toasted oval reminiscent of a muffler burn reddening the inside of my inner arm.
Actually, it's not the first time I've been burned. A few years back, I brushed my elbow against an unshaded bulb and my skin singed before I yanked back in pain. At six years of age, I scrambled to iron hair ribbons as my mother turned her back from wrinkled sheets to answer the phone.
Don't you dare, she warned, tethered by a coil of telephone core. Don't you dare pick that up.
I dropped the iron on my forearm. Wasn't the last stint, either. In college, I ironed my leg while sitting on the floor pressing a shirt on a pillow case while watching a rerun of the Wizard of Oz.
My son is certain that in a previous life I may have been Joan of Arc. No one, he has told me, has been burned as many times as you.
Earlier this week, a law enforcement officer knocked on the door to verify my family member continued to live at our address. Off probation for several months, our loved one had almost managed to put the nightmare of the last five years behind us. Then the knock at the door, to carry out a condescending city ordinance put in place by a scared-to-death city council--serving to remind we as a family may never get past a wrinkle in our lifetime.
That we will continue to be burned. That we family members will continue to feel the sting and the pain of collateral damage.
That we all will never live the life to which we deserve, of which we aspire.
Because we absolutely cannot get past the ex post facto sex offender laws continuing to be stacked against us.
I'm tired of constantly feeling the heat. I'm tired of bearing the scars.
When will it end?
When?
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I've often wondered that myself. Only after two decades of a failed "war on drugs" are we admitting that our approach to that issue was flat out wrong. After all that time, we're admitting that we need more treatment and halfway houses for drug offenders. Congress passed the Second Chance Act. It will come, just verrrrrrrrrrry slowly. It would come quicker if those impacted by these laws would speak up more!
I hope you are right.
When will it end?
If history is any indicator, it won't end until after there is a "final solution."
halebobbdotcom
sunny you probably WERE joan of arc.
I think your city is a bunch of absurd ninnies who thought you would shut up when they released your loved one. Barring that ... they like to let you know they know. YES. They ARE that small. Little prudish *but secretly doing worse than you can imagine ... control freaks whose mental imaginings are worse than any child sex offencer's could EVER be.
That handicapped RSO who was blogging on here should be sure to file with ACLU.
That might move them an inch. JUST because they turned you down is no reason to stop contacting them.
Just sayin ...
My son went down to a new county to register on his birthday this past Friday.
The clerk informed him he would HAVE to make an appointment to register, not something required where he registered before.
He told the clerk he had taken off from work and driven a long way.
She angrily informed him he MUST make an appointment and come back MONDAY - they couldn't keep up with registeries otherwise THERE'S JUST SO MANY OF YOU NOW!
Squeaky wheels get the grease - keep asking. Keep asking. Keep asking...
Yes, the registry is a gift that keeps on giving, even if we don't want it. It not only keeps on giving, but there are constant surprises as more and more is added to that gift. How much more could this group of recipients give to society if that gift was limited to those who most need it?
How many more resources would we have for education, health care, and more if we limited the distribution of this gift?
How many family members, loved ones, and yes, children could have their lives made free again, could pursue happiness again without this most horrible of gifts?
wow, she had time to say all that?? Maybe they just wanted to see if they could toss some nubile young thing in his path to tempt him on the way back down there? Or catch him out of county? OR not having registered yet. MO MONEY MO MONEY. Paranois is perfect awareness. Love ya magister ... keep aksing asking asking asking... HEY, check out this poor dude. I AM STILL TRYING to figure out which statute he broke. I think it's the LAW OF ROBERT ONEILL PERHAPS. You're not Irish? Yes sir, I am. BOB: OH< but you're NOT the RIGHT kind of Irish, right son? No sir, I guess not. BOB: OFF WITH YOUR LIFE THEN .. I can fuck my secretaries on my desk but you may not fuck AT ALL unless I know about it.
Seriously.. didn't FUCK come from somewhere?? Is this the king in charge of fornication AGAIN????
http://www.tampabay.com/news/publicsafety/crime/clearwater-man-20-faces-lewd-lascivious-battery-charges-involving-girl-15/1105520
People, if ya don't like to fuck JUST DON'T. The rest of us would like to.
SgtMom,
I hope your son documented that woman's name....and I hope she is working her little fingers to the bone...like we are supposed to feel sorry for her.
SgtMom. Texas has always mandated an appointment for registration. They couldn't justify the person sitting at the desk with the job if they didn't. Don;t worry, soon they will just have us all wear monitors so we can have like a drive thru monitoring stop, drive through, update your info then it checks on you twice a week to ensure you DO go to that place of address.
Sunny. I understand your frustration. Coming out of the Probation is worse than being on it. Atleast ON probation a person can understand why they must do certain things. But as a 'free' citizen, it is offensive to continue to live under that blanket.
Anon 5:20, I quote "he molested a 15-year-old Largo girl he met on MySpace.com." That is what the guy did wrong. Whiel the 'close-in-age' exception can be used for a 23 year old being sexual with a 16 or 17 y/o, the 15 year old was too young. The old "I thought she was ..." excuse is tired. I can say if I knew then what I knew now, I would have waited the additional 6 months till my victim turned 16 and all would have been legal.. but I was selfish, just like all the rest of us.
Yeah but he was only 20, not 24. A few months should not make a lifetime of misery. I'm thinking I'm going back to get all the guys my sister had sex with before she was 16. Since the statutes of limitations is UNEXPIRABLE: MAYBE ONE OF THEM IS RICH TODAY and helped send her off on a lifetime of hardship and uncertainty about relationships and sex. When I was 15 my SO was 20. We never did the wild thing til much later but no one was pointing the finger at us as though we were criminals. AND why is only the guy a criminal?? You're feeding into this whole sickness by calling yourself a victimizer. Was the person REALLY your victim or was it something different> I don't mind being wrong but I am curious which is why I asked. At fifteen I was not a victim. I was innocent but knew what was going on.
Well, I am an RSO, so it would seem that the 15 y/o was my victim. Did I mean to go into a bar and pick up a 15 y/o with a fake ID? no, I didn't but just the same, it got me on the registry, so yeah, she was my victim.
Tomato Toe-Maut-Toe
Still on the reg for life, and I don't have a conviction. yeah Texas is a weird state as far as laws go.
So you know. at 14 I had one of those 19 y/o SO's as well, sister's friend. I didn't feel victimized either, maybe I should have...
How are you supposed to know that a 15 year old is fifteen? Do you ever feel framed? Seriously? Between the ages of 15 and 25 there is every description imaginable before most times you can begin to tell that someone is over 20. BUT NOT ALWAYS. Did the bar get in any trouble? I go to a bar I'm assuming the people I'm drinking with are legal. End of story. there are so many holes in these RSO convictions if any atty was honorable they would tear the cases APART. These should NOT be open/shut cases. They're stupid. And peopel are being fucked with big time. Thanks for your patience. Sometimes people grow impatient with me when I ask questions but I always have a goal. I need to know stuff. It helps me figure out what I will evcentually make happen.
Continue to answer if you like. If not, that's fine. Thanks again for your patience. She wasn't a victim but a kinda loose girl looking for what she got. I went to bars underage too BUT here's the fine line: I was with my older SO and no one gave a damn and I didn't go home and have sex with a GD stranger and then rat on or expose someone. Do you have any idea where the 'victim' is now? And if others have fallen victim to this victim? Again, thanks for your patience.
No, the bar didn't come into it. We had a "relationship" for a brief period (sex ing either she was someone's wife/GF wanting some strange, or that she might very well be younger than what she said.. but t was already too late to pull back that regret.
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